Oliver Burkeman in the Guardian Weekly had
a nice example of a situation where we might try too hard in his article last
week. The case in point was getting to sleep. I am truly blessed as a sleeper.
I can sleep almost anywhere at almost any time, I love to sleep, and usually it
does not take me more than a few minutes to doze off. Sometimes I wake in the
night and feel too lively. Then I just go downstairs, drink some hot water,
read a paper, and after all that I’m invariably ready to drop off again. The
only times I end up tossing and turning are the first night in a hotel, when I
have jet lag, or when I have an early alarm call. Thankfully, all those
situations are rare nowadays.
Not everyone is as lucky as I am, and many
would give much to improve their speed at getting to sleep. Burkeman discovered
a book full of advice. Much of the advice feels sensible. Lay off caffeine and
cheese after lunch. Eat early, and stop drinking alcohol and using electronics
a couple of hours before bedtime. Keep the bedroom cool and dark.
Burkeman’s point is that putting effort
into getting to sleep might make things worse. The brain might become even more
active putting the news steps into practice and wondering what might be working
and what not, with a result that sleep could become even harder to come by. The
whole secret of getting to sleep is having an empty brain, so cluttering it up
with tips can be counter-productive.
I half-buy this argument. Many of the tips
are really just good lifestyle habits. Once they are in place you don’t think
about them. True, if you happen to have a boozy night, you might then lose
sleep worrying about losing sleep, but in most cases we can benefit from living
smartly. One of the few things I don’t like about Spain and Portugal is the
habit of eating rich food late.
I find getting to sleep a good example of
separating inputs from results. The result is fast sleep. Aiming for the result
is counter-productive, we just worry more and our brains get more and more
agitated. But working on the drivers, the inputs, the leading indicators if you
like, is worthwhile.
The same logic can be transferred directly
into a business context. Twenty years ago scorecards and dashboards came into
fashion. They are useful for keeping score, for handing out rewards and for
holding managers to account. What they are usually less good for is driving
actions. My boss can scream at me all he likes about growing profit, but it
doesn’t help me in my work. Should I try harder to sell more? Or try to squeeze
margins? Or spend less? All of these might grow profits, but all may do more
harm than good. And even if they do grow profit, that is more likely to be next
year than this.
To drive action, it is more useful to focus
on leading indicators or drivers. These are things people can act on, that will
usually create better outcomes later. It often makes sense to have two
dashboards, one of the leading indicators and one of the outcomes. It is also a
good exercise to try to establish what good leading indicators are.
There are many other good goals in life
that should be treated as outcomes and strived for not directly but only
through other factors. Think of popularity. If we try to too hard to popular,
we will surely fail, and most things we try will only make the result worse.
But it is possible to come up with many smart ways to live that might together
lead to being popular. Justice might also fit into this category.
What about finding peace, or serenity, or
even God? Don’t go looking to hard! In the case of God, some people look so
hard that they see Him everywhere. Then He lets them down and they are broken.
No, it is better to let such things come to you. Get the lifestyle right, get
the attitude right, and perhaps the happy outcome will seek you out.
Burkeman’s piece also led me to other
situations where it is smarter to lay off then to get directly involved.
We saw a beautiful example earlier this
month, with the Scottish referendum. Once the polls started to get close, the
English politicians all panicked, and started making speeches and even visiting
Scotland. Everything they did made things worse. Even direct promises were not
taken at face value but seen as evidence of some kind of malice. I think if I
was Scottish I would have felt the same. Luckily, we got the right result, at
least in my opinion, despite the best efforts of the English to secure the
wrong one.
Another good example is when you have some
dispute with your boss at work. Nowadays, we are often told to be active in
difficult situations rather than hiding away. I believe that when there is a
problem with the boss hiding can be a smarter strategy.
In simple terms a problem with the boss can
be about you or it can be about him or her. If it is about you, then sort
yourself out. Get some feedback from someone else, do what you need to do,
demonstrate change, and perhaps the problem will go away.
If it is about him or her, then you start
running risks. Often, a boss starts to take things out on staff when under
performance pressure. The root cause of that is usually a lack of sufficient
competence or a lack of sufficient competence. When suffering through that, the
last thing the boss wants is a complaining staff member. Even if it starts with
good intentions on both sides, the conversation can go horribly wrong. The boss
will see every complaint as self-criticism. That piles problem on problem. At a
certain point, the boss will think “I don’t need to take this from this person,
they report to me not the other way around”. They will stop listening and start
firing back. Things can escalate. Awkward history is created. Things finish
worse than they started.
If you have a problem with your boss, and
let’s face it most of us usually do, then back luck. I recommend subtler
remedies than confrontation. First, make sure you only accept a job where you
are confident that you can get on with the boss. A good boss is a passport to a
happy job. Take a bad job with a good boss before a good job with a bad boss.
Once you are faced with the situation, be
patient. You might get a move. More likely, he or she might get a move. There
might be a reorganization, such things happen often enough. Wait it out, and
stay out of the line of fire. While you are waiting, be rather cautious. Be
very clear about expectations, and make sure you don’t give ammunition to get
at you. Buddy up with others in the team to address issues together,
indirectly. No matter how distasteful, try to make the boss seem good in front
of his own boss and his colleagues.
There are many strategies, all usually
better than confrontation. Going to HR with a complaint is the worst strategy
of all, unless you are faced with something blatant like abuse.
Another situation to be careful is in a
long-term relationship. Of course honesty and respect are great goals where
attainable, but sometimes there are situations where a good outcome from an
intervention is unrealistic. Than you face a choice. Get out, put up with the
situation and try to manage it, or confront it. Before you confront it, make
sure you are ready for the consequences.
One thing you can be sure if you choose to
confront a relationship difficulty head on. You won’t be sleeping well for a
while, whether you lay off alcohol and caffeine or whether you don’t.
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