Next summer
it will be twenty years since I left the UK to live in Sweden. I would never
have dreamed that I would be away from my native land for so long. After
Sweden, I went on to live in Norway, the Netherlands and now the US.
A few weeks
ago, Schumpeter wrote a good column in the Economist about expatriates. His
main theme was that companies tended to waste the experience of returning
expats. I agree with that claim. Time and again, I have seen the careers of
returning expats stall. While the initial move away tends to be well reasoned
as an attempt to broaden the experience of a rising executive, rarely does that
experience receive much value upon return.
There are a
variety of reasons for this wasteful state of affairs. Some relate to the expats
themselves. Many enjoy the experience of being a bigger fish in a smaller pond
and spin out their posting, or try to acquire a second or third posting
somewhere else. When they do return, they can resent it, can feel undervalued,
and fail to make enough effort to apply the lessons from their experience to
their home business. Quite a few leave the company altogether.
It does not
help that reintegration into a home country can be hard socially too. Outlooks
have changed, yet old friends have moved on and no one seems to want to hear
about how exciting life is in whatever foreign country they have been living.
And coming back to live on a more meagre salary is hardly an incentive.
If the
expats fail their companies, the companies usually fail the returning expats as
well. HR systems and power networks tend to be very parochial. An expat is out
of sight and frequently out of mind as well, so when it is time to return they
have often been forgotten and are placed somewhere hastily that does not fit
their skills. The knowledge that they have acquired is not seen as valuable,
and is even resented, while jealousy can also be a problem. While onboarding
programmes for new staff and even new expats can be lavish, little effort is
placed on reintegrating returning expats. If a foreigner arrives in the office,
people make an attempt to listen to them and learn from them, at least after
initial suspicion. A returning expat can have just as much to offer, but is
seldom asked.
Schumpeter
made all these points, and I can support a good many of them from my own
experience and that of those I observed. One thing that became clear in my case
was that the most transferable skills that I acquired as an expat were those
that would help me in other expat assignments rather than back home. And when
ready to move, no one back in the UK system could remember me, but when other
expat assignments became available, I seemed to be on the radar.
I recall
one short conversation on a plane after I had been away from the UK for maybe
four years, with the head of Shell UK’s retail business at that time. I had
left the UK two levels below that post, but had done quite well in two jobs in
Europe, eventually rising to a sort of shareholder advisor role to his
position, that could loosely be termed a peer function. On the plane, he
sounded me out for a position reporting to him. In his mind, he was being
generous in considering someone from outside his regular system for what he saw
as a big job. In my mind, I had already progressed past that level, and the
only job in that business that would fit me would be his own. Stupidly, that is
exactly what I said to him. The conversation ended swiftly and I never received
any interest from Shell UK again. He felt threatened, especially since I might have
been consulted about his own performance, and he felt unjustly rebuffed. He was
half right, and so was I, since I had a reasonable case for a more ambitious
career path, but should never have expressed it so bluntly. I condemned myself
to the role of jumped up outsider. In this small story lie a hundred lessons
for anyone on the expat trail.
The article
offers many tips for aspiring expats, and I can add a few more. From the
article, one key tip is to be very cautious when it is time to come home. Keep your
network as strong as it can be, but expect the need to rebuild it, and build
one outside your own company. Be ready to accept a more modest job than you
might think you deserve, at least for a time. Don’t show off about your expat
experience, just let what it has taught you come through in your work (in that
respect, such experience is just like gaining an MBA).
Socially, a
returning expat has to recognise that the people at home at not like the ones
you got to know abroad, and are unlikely to want to be regaled of stories from
foreign lands. Take time to rediscover the self you were before you left rather
than rejecting it. Practically, quickly get back into former frugal habits, for
the money will be tighter.
I can add
some tips to apply during an expat assignment as well. Expect some resentment
and jealousy abroad as well, and don’t go on at length about how things are
done at home. Instead, try to integrate as much as you can into your new
country. You will need to mingle with expats, but make sure you take on local
activities as well, these will ultimately be the most memorable. Really try to
learn the language, and keep trying, making sure you improve year after year.
Ultimately, my biggest regret is that I was far too lazy in learning languages,
especially after the initial enthusiasm in Sweden.
Your
attitude about the length of your assignment is very important for your
wellbeing. In your company, always say – and believe – that you will be there
for the long term, and that your wish is to remain as long as possible. Even if
it looks like your stay is closing, stay in the present and keep behaving in
your social life as though it will continue for some time: keep buying things
and arranging things, for otherwise you’ll live in an unpleasant limbo for what
could be a long time. But also have half an eye on other possibilities: when I
left the UK, I never thought it would be for more than a few years, and I may
well have planned differently if I had considered that as a possibility. This
is a tough balance to manage, and requires deep and frequent discussion with
your family, as it is so easy for assumptions to dominate and preferences to
change without acknowledgement.
Depending
on your company, you will probably do well financially out of expatriation,
perhaps even very well, but you’ll only really know afterwards and it will take
at least six months for there to be any stability in your finances. Managing
dual careers through expatriation is an exception and needs great care, but
otherwise make the early stages less stressful by being ready to spend much
more than you otherwise would.
I developed
a rather negative view of my homeland while away from it, something that may be
a risk for others too. I tended to see where I was living through a half full
glass, but matters at home with a half empty one. I forgot the best things
about home, and also remembered it as it was rather than accepting that things
could have improved. It was only recently that trips to London have rekindled
positive thoughts about the UK and even some desire to live there again one
day.
Expatriation
has been a massive blessing for me. When it started, the circumstances were
perfect, in that there were no significant dual career issues yet I had a child
young enough to grow and learn from the experience without major educational
disruption. I think dual careers and teenage kids might be the only factors
that would make me advise against taking a posting.
Then, as
things developed, I was able to follow the tips I lay down here, more perhaps
by good fortune than any wisdom, and notwithstanding stupidity on planes and
laziness with languages. I feel the overall result to be a more fulfilled life
than could have been possible within one country, blessed by a wider world
view, blessings that I’ve also been able to pass onto my family. For people
thinking about taking a spell abroad, on balance I’d advise almost anyone to go
for it, so long as dual career discussions can be reconciled. And a lovely
trend is that more and more people will have such opportunities, though maybe
without quite the unwarranted financial benefits that were showered on me.
So here is
a four step guide to considering expatriation. Step one is to deal with
possible blockers, notably dual careers, via deep family discussion, with
outside help if required. If you can get past step one, step two is to find a
good enough opportunity, without being over-fussy about location or apparent
finances. Step three is to read this blog. And step four is to go for it with
full gusto. Good luck!
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